It’s your wedding and that means it’s all up to you. Well, your fiancé should certainly have a say when it comes to the date, the invited guests, the band, the venue or the menu, but definitely not when it comes to dresses. Your gown is your choice, it needs to be a dress you fall in love with and feel beautiful in, because that is the only kind of dress that a bride can wear. And since it’s your wedding, the decision regarding your bridesmaids dresses is also only yours to make. Or is it?

Yes, it is. Your wedding means your rules, so you are the only one deciding what kind of bridesmaids dresses your friends are going to wear. You are the one choosing the wedding colors, so you should be the one choosing the color, or colors, of the bridesmaid dresses. It’s your decision whether the bridesmaids should all wear the same exact dress or if the dresses should vary slightly in shade or neckline, it’s for you to say if they’re all to wear the same shoes, it’s even your decision to tell them to use the same nail polish color if you so choose. After all it’s your big day, not theirs, so as your bridesmaids they’re to look the way you want them to look, and they shouldn’t complain. If they want to decide about the bridesmaids dresses, they can get engaged and start planning their own wedding, then it’s going to be up to them and if you’re a bridesmaid, you’ll wear what you’re told just as you expect your bridesmaids to do.

No, it’s not. Sure it’s your wedding and you decide what dress you’ll wear, where your reception will be and what flavor cake you’ll have. You’re deciding about the menu and the seating chart, about the first song and the honeymoon destination because it’s mostly about you and your love, whom you know in and out. But you will be eating the cake and having your first dance, while you won’t be wearing the bridesmaids dresses, your friends will. And so they should make the decision in regards to the color, the cut or the accessories, because if the dresses don’t look good on every last bridesmaid, you might be looking at some unhappy faces on your big day. Because it’s hard to look happy when the dress is shifting, the color makes one’s complexion look sickly or one is trying to cover up the whole time. So why not ask the girls to shop and let them decide together as a group? That way you’re sure to have happy and pretty looking bridesmaids at your wedding.

So should you let your bridesmaids choose their own bridesmaids dresses or should the decision be entirely yours? In a perfect scenario neither. In a perfect scenario your bridesmaids should let you know what they would feel best in, they should be able to freely suggest that you let them wear different lengths or different shades of your chosen color, and you should listen to their suggestion with an open mind. But the ultimate, final decision should get to be yours. Yours, yet keeping in mind what your friends say, because it’s not only the right thing to do, it’s also the smart thing to do.

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